It is said that we all love our dear person with whole heart, but actually you can love not only with your soul but also with your mind. This is quite another type of love, and probably it will not last really long or will bring you what you really need from relations. So to say, love of convenience. And you can easily define yourself how you love your woman, and is this really love or you are cheating yourself and, what is more important, can make another person unhappy.

First of all, think over the next idea: do you love the person by your side or just the idea that you have this person? Sometimes real love is substituted with the pride that you’ve managed to get such a beautiful, of successful, or clever (or everything at once) woman, and you just enjoy this ideal like a conqueror who has finally gained the area he wanted. Actually, such situation will not last long, as sooner or later you might meet someone more interesting to hunt, and relations will be over. But if you feel that you stay with her just because this is her, this is real love, and you love her by your heart, not by head.

And what do you think about the character and habits of your beloved person? When people start dating, they always try to show only best qualities and sides they have. There are really not too many people who can be sincere from the very first minute of acquaintance. So, when time passes, you start showing your not too positive sides. If you tend not to pay attention to them, you love your lady with heart, but if you focus on them every time they show off and they irritate you, you probably love her with your head. Or don’t love at all, as loving people love all drawbacks in their object of passion.

So, from the previous statement one can make the conclusion that if you get irritated with different flaws, you don’t love a person for who she is. You just try to change her to make her fit more your requirements and needs, but this is not love actually.

There is also such a thing as sparkle which can run between two people. It is used to be considered the main sign of real love, love with heart, as even your body accepts the person you are communicating with. But if you don’t feel this sparkle or at least some positive emotions and raise of mood while thinking about her, this isn’t love with heart.

If you are still unsure whether you love her with head or heart, take a piece of paper and write the list of 10 qualities you find great and think your lady has. And after this think critically whether she really has them or they are just written on paper.

What is the first desire appearing in your head when you think of her? Whether this is the desire to make her happy, to take care of her, or you start imagining her lying in bed on beautiful silk sheet? If the second, this is not love, but just love and desire of her body, but you don’t want to accept this and try to exonerate yourself that you are in serious relationship.

The final question is are you with this woman just because you simply need love and there is no one available except for her? If this is really so, your relations will make you both unhappy sooner or later, and it is better not to continue in this way. But if you just can’t live without her and can’t see anyone else by your side – congratulations! Your heart is in real love!