When someone falls in love, this person doesn’t notice any flaws in the one he or she has chosen. However, if you decide to have really long and strong relationship, sooner or later it turns out that you are not completely similar to each other, as it may seemed to be at the beginning. Living together will make you see that you have to solve different life situations together and to come to a single conclusion together. For this, you should learn how to make compromises without hurting each other or making feel nervous.
One of the simplest ways to come to compromise is to distinguish the true matter of the question. Sometimes one problem can pull others and you can become distracted with such a bunch of them, so the best variant is to solve them one by one.
The next step, which is much more complex, is to listen to each other. Talk one by one and don’t interrupt. And in no case don’t only pretend that you are listening, you really need to listen to your couple and to understand the words and demands told to you. In other case you will only keep on quarreling and holding your ground without moving anywhere. As soon as you learn this, you will manage to understand each other better. Besides, you will really feel what your partner feels, so placing yourself on someone’s else position will help you to find the compromise faster.
After you start listening to each other, be more specific. Don’t spread the idea for hours, state exactly what you would like to achieve or what doesn’t fit you and you would like to change. And you both need to do this frankly and openly.
As soon as you have defined all your problems and points of view on them, it is time to find out how to solve them. It is better to make several suggestions from both sides. You may even write a list apart from each other and after this show them and discuss which will fit you most of all.
Unfortunately, you will not manage to receive precisely what you want, as this is the compromise, and not the fulfillment of your wishes. This means that you will have to bend slightly and remove some parts of your will so that you both become satisfied, as your partner will have to do the same.
When all items are cleared and conclusions are made, this doesn’t mean that you can forget about them forever. Of course if it happened so that your compromise is simply ideal and you both feel yourself completely satisfied, you don’t need this. But if something is still not too quite great or some circumstances have changes, you may return to discussion again. Just be open with each other in communication, and you will manage to overcome any issue.