Healthy relations mean lots of communication. Long-distance relationship mean really immense amount of communication, as this is its base, and there is no other way to build and support it. You might have discussed lots of topics with your lady and have probably even met with her, but did you ever think – didn’t you say or do something that may push your lady away from you, and you will be unaware about this? Here are a few things that may play a bad role in your love story.
Aren’t you too clingy? Don’t you spy on your lady? Don’t you call/write her every 5 seconds? Such behavior not only bothers ladies but can even scary them away. Showing affection and writing letters or short messages is quite normal, but when their amount and your clinging control crosses all borders, this starts to look more like maniac chasing rather than healthy relationship.
Money is surely important. No one can live in this bureaucratic world without it. However, you shouldn’t rise this topic all the time. Everyone works according to possibilities, and salaries vary not only depending on level of education, for example, but also depending on the country of person’s living. Try to read statistics across the world, and you will be surprised how in some countries people manage to survive on tiny salaries.
Sex is another topic which appears really often. We are all grown-up people with various preferences, but there is one thing that decent lady will not stand – constant demand of the sex of the first date. Including the fact that communication is virtual and you are not acquainted personally yet, not all ladies will be glad to hop into your bed when they see you for the first time. And this is not because they will not like you – Ukrainian ladies are just very decent and proud of themselves, they just want to know you better before making such serious step. Besides, such offer makes any lady feel herself like a thing a man wants to use as soon as possible and leave when he is done.
Avoid the topic of alcohol drinks. Ladies who are looking for their husbands want to see someone serious and reliable by their side, but if they keep on reading “funny” stories from a man on how her got drunk and which adventures he had after this, they would probably stop communication.
Don’t discuss your previous relations in details. Ladies are very possessive, and even if you don’t communicate with your old passion for long time, they may be nervous. The awfullest approach is to start comparing your lady with your exes. All women hate this, and after being upset with such comparison, they usually leave. On the other hand, you may just tell your love in a few words on what was in your life before her, and that would be enough. If she wants more details, she will surely ask herself.
Trust is important. Especially in long-distance relations. But why should you tell completely everything about yourself in your very first letter or on your first meeting? Leave something for later, so that you could amaze your woman longer, and she felt some mystery in you. Ladies love to solve mysteries, and you will become her the most loved one!
So, just try not to abuse your woman, and she will pay you back the same. When you find your ideal another half, you will surely know what and how to do to win her heart and live long happy life together.